We have all had our share of “fair-weather” friends. They are the ones who call you whenever they need something, but not available when you need something. They are the ones who call you when they are down or worried about their jobs, love life, or are facing a challenge. They want you to comfort them, console them, and listen, but are often too busy or not available when you need a friend in return. Do you have any friends like that? I used to. I think we all do. But several years ago I told a bold step with a few of my “fair-weather” friends. I released them from my circle. When I thought back to all the times that I had shared with these people, I realized that it was a one-way street. I remember one friend specifically. She only called when she needed something, and those calls might be years apart. When I talked to her, it was obvious that she did not care what I was talking about and was always quick to turn the conversation back to herself. I released that “friend” about five years ago, without regret, or malice, just gave thanks for the time we had shared and closed the door with kindness. She wasn’t a bad person, just not a “good friend”. Good friends fill your cup, not drain it. As we get older, we realize we need fewer people in our circle, and the ones who remain are the ones who truly become our forever friends. Why is it so hard to release people from our life? Even the toxic ones? I don’t have the answer to that, but I can assure you that when you do release them, life changes for the better.
Something to Think About
Choose to travel through life with friends who take turns driving and enjoy the journey with you.
If you have people in your life who are “toxic”, make the conscious choice to release them from your life. When you do, you make room for the good friends that matter most.
Words of Wisdom
A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked. – Bernard Meltzer
A true friend encourages us, comforts us, supports us like a big easy chair, offering us a safe refuge from the world. – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a few good friends that you can be certain about. – Unknown
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses. – Ann Landers