How many times this past week did someone do or say something that you disagreed with? Was it at work? At home? Did you find yourself thinking, “I can’t believe that they said that or did that!” There is a good chance that person has a behavior pattern that is different from yours. There are four different behavior patterns, and each one responds, acts and makes decisions using different criteria.
For the next several weeks, we are going to talk about each of the four behavior patterns, one at a time. There is no right or wrong: only different. When you understand why people make the decisions that they make, or how they make their decisions, it reduces your stress and the stress of those around you. If you have taken a DISC test, you are familiar with the four basic personalities. If you have not taken a DISC test, I would recommend it. Or you can take any test that determines your behavior pattern. Today let’s talk about the I personality, or as I like to refer to it — the expressive personality. They move at a fast pace and they are really friendly! They talk a lot and they are impulsive. This personality lives in the moment much of the time. They are comfortable in social settings and quickly make new friends. They love to entertain others in their home and enjoy going out with friends. Fun and food are a big part of their life. They are an emotional decision maker, which means that they rely on emotions to make their decisions, more so than facts. They might buy a car, on an impulse, because it felt good at the moment. They will buy from a salesperson that they like, versus a salesperson they don’t like. Is this your personality? Or do you live with this personality? Their life and their decisions are based on “how they feel” about that situation. They leave jobs and relationships that don’t feel good. They will always pursue their dreams and encourage others to do the same. They recharge at the end of a long day by getting together with friends for food, fun, and laughter. This is a fun person to be around, if they are happy and content!
Something to Think About
If you are a logical person, can it be challenging to be with someone who is your exact opposite? Absolutely! However, just remember that for you, you think facts and stability are important. It’s hard for you to imagine decisions made on a whim, or just because it feels good. They feel just as strongly about how they make their decisions. For them, they think they are right. Remember, there’s no right and no wrong; only different ways of looking at the same situation.
Get out of your comfort zone this week. If you are the expressive personality, make plans with someone who is very logical. Talk about their interests and how they arrive at a decision. If you are not the expressive personality, make plans with your most outgoing, emotional friend, and just go with the flow. No matter what happens, look at the world through their eyes.
Words of Wisdom
Looking back, of course, it was irresponsible, mad, forlorn, idiotic, but if you don’t take chances then you’ll never have a winning hand, and I’ve no regrets. – Bernard Cornwell
I do not think I am successful just because I have money. I’m successful because I love who I am, and I have no regrets, and I’m successful because I have a great heart and I have compassion and I care and I would be happy with or without money. – Suze Orman
I’m not paralyzed with fear, but I realize it is important to live as if there’s no tomorrow, always trying to maintain your integrity and have no regrets. – Sissy Spacek
I was raised by my mom, and she just had this very non-judgmental, having no shame about yourself, no regrets, just trusting your gut and your instinct, and treating yourself with respect. – Lily Collins
Don’t waste a minute not being happy. If one window closes, run to the next window- or break down a door. – Brooke Shields